-- Post From My iPhone
I made this up yesterday for a friend who was having a housewarming party. I ended up not going because I was tired and had another event to go to that evening. Cute, yes? Hope she likes it. I overheard her saying she liked brown, not sure about the pink though. I used this pattern and all I did was shorten it by 2 inches.
Facebook has been a very fun social network, connecting me to people I had not known about in 20+ years. It's interesting to see how people turned out. There's a boy I dated briefly when I was 16 that I had pegged as a total playa. He seemed to be a road to nowhere but he seems to be quite a nice, balanced man. His Facebook friends all seem to have very high regard for him. He's a probation officer. A junior high friend was sorta a nerdy, skater boy (oxymoron?). And now he's all into guns and cars. He has a government job.
So, what I'm pondering is this: Do I remain Facebook friends with my ex? We don't chit chat anymore. All contact is as needed only. We always prided ourselves in the fact that we never argued. But I've had so many verbally aggressive fights with him in my head over the years that I'm surprised I'm sane. What we shouldn't be so proud of is the fact that we didn't communicate period.
Our Facebook friendship is something I've wondered about in the past couple of months. He posts pictures of him with the chick and for some reason, it irritates the hell out of me and that irritation in itself pisses me off. Why does it even matter?? Why do I even care?? And he comments on her pictures and it's obvious he's head over heels. He's met her family and hangs out with her nieces and all that gets my goat. WHY? And why do I torture myself by looking? And again, why do i care? I think my curiosity gets the better of me. I've sorta pieced together that relationship. He told me they'd met in January. But the pictures he posted today were from January first. I don't know when, how or where he met her. But she starts showing up on the phone bill in October, when we were pondering our future together but before we had decided to call it quits. That was a shock when I discovered that. So much so that I got a call from a good friend just as I was looking over the bill why my jaw on the floor and could I not even answer verbally. Some guttural sounded came out of my throat and friend went into panic and I still couldn't talk. I just started crying. Ugh! You think you know someone. But I digress.
I hadn't dropped him because I'm a curious girl and wanted to know his business. But I think I'm done. My irritation with his posts is just too much. He just irritates me I guess. Do I tell him I'm unfriending him or just unfriend him? I suppose that means I unfriend his friends too. They're all on a list together where they can't see my business anyway.
Breaking up is hard to do. In 8 more days I can ask for a judgement on the divorce if he doesn't file a response.
7 comments:
Sounds like it's time. DO it. And invest your time on your own life now, not on dissecting his. I'd unfriend him, with no notice.
Unfriend, no notice. I think you already know that. You want more peace in your life and having him on facebook is not providing for more peace.
I agree with the other posters. Just un-friend him without giving notice. Life's too short to be irritated with an ex.
Okay. I did it. Thanks for your advice. I like how goodworks said to stop dissecting his life. You're so right. That's totally what I was doing.
Good for you, Elbee. Unfriending is a healthy boundary. Sounds like that's what you needed to do to protect yourself emotionally.
my husband sent me a friend request. after a week i accepted it. after a month i deleted it. i felt it was he way of keeping tabs on me. if he wanted to all he has to do is ask. weeks later he started bringing up stuff i had said to a guy i went to high school with from last year. he had read everything i said to everyone from when i joined facebook. when u start grasping for things to hold on to something that is far gone its time to stop and just let it go. you aren't hurting him. you are hurting you. i'm glad you did it!
I'm late but in agreement! Glad you did what you did.
You care because you care. The girl that set out to make a life with a boy lives on inside of you. She's not running things, but she does have her sensitivities.
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